Fighting and Looking for Results-My Letter to Court Auxiliary Services Coordinator Colorado State Court Administrator's Office

Hello Mr. Edinger, 

We spoke about a month and a half ago, and I had just lost my case to my Ex due to a bad CFI. Now life for me has gotten worse and worse. My Ex husband has changed the schedule whenever he deems necessary,  and then demands for me to pick up the children or alter my schedule to go with his unauthorized changes. If I do not comply, he threatens to take me to court. I am scared to go back to court due to my previous experiences, but do not know what else to do. One of my children has a learning disability and has a court appointed counselor to deem when he is ready to go to his Father's home full time. She has not authorized any additional time with the exception of one overnight and one dinner night. Since then My Son has gotten in trouble at school 3 times and behavior has changed dramatically. Without authorization of the counselor my ex has added an extra day, this weekend. I consulted my Son's counselor and she said she did not authorize the change and was just discussing some changes with my son Eric. She gave My ex a call to explain and to also re schedule the appointment with our Son he had missed and he never called her back. However he implemented the change on his own. After implementing the change, he is refusing to bring the children home. I am sick with the flu and I asked him to bring the children home, he refused. So I told him to make sure to have the children to school on time tomorrow. Now he has done nothing but harass me and send many text messages threatening to take me back to court. I have gone above and beyond to adhere to the schedule the court gave and now, anytime he wishes he changes it, threatening to take me back to court. I cannot live this way any longer Mr Edinger. I am being battered, over and over again, and the system has allowed this. How do I fight back?? How do I put this abuse on my children and myself to a stop? Please any suggestions.

Thanks,

It's Amazing, Think About This.....

It's Amazing, you endure the physical and the emotional abuse from your batterer and you wonder...


What did I do to deserve this, and finally you figure out you did nothing and it's all him. He is one warped twisted individual, and now his life's goal is to make your life a living hell. So you leave, but you have his Children. Since you are struggling he leaves you with the children alone without any support. 


Then you begin to have support and he wants to enter the children's lives just to mess yours up. You go to court, the court allows the battering to continue, by allowing a CFI to lie, you not to prove your case and then on top of that tell the batterer he's forgiven after putting you down as a mother. It's disgusting!


 Now My batterer seems to think it's okay to throw that day in my face every chance he gets. When things don't go his way, which generally means I am not going above and beyond to make him happy, he threatens court again. Well you know what I am fed up!!!!! Take my tail back to court then. I am no longer your victim and I am going to live my life. I deserve my time with my children as you do your time. 


However I will not be frightened of the court system and allow my batterer to continue to batter me!!!


If you don't want to bring the children home on time, then keep them another day. I am not going to stop what I am doing and come and get them because you changed the schedule around. I am worthy of a life outside of our children, and I no longer have any connection with you!! I will hold my end of the parenting plan and if you cannot hold yours up then, give them to me and when you can come get them on your parenting time let me know. No more will I cater to your schedule, give you extra time, or put up with your excuses. It's not my job!! 


Time to step up Ladies!! YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE THE VICTIM. Call their bluff from time to time, stop being scared.


It's a learning process, I am still learning too. One step at a time. One No at a time. One I am worth it at a time. Believe me, we as women are worth it. When things are broken who has to fix it?? We do. So whether we fix it while being a victim or while loving ourselves, We are much more supportive after loving our selves. This Crap has  to end sometime. 


Think About It!!!!


Aren't You Ready Yet?????

We Are Getting Out There!!!

Hello Justice,

 

I applaud you for starting your website.  We have been networking and trying to spread the word of efforts for Justice.

 

Chief Justice Mullarkey responded to a January 2007 direct letter from parents, testimony by mothers including myself before the House Judiciary Committee against SB09-069, and Recommendation 69 A-F of the Final Report of the Commission on Families in the Colorado Courts (August 2002) by tasking the State Court Administrator's Office (SCAO) to make recommendations for Child Family Investigator (CFI) and Parenting Coordinators (PCs) reform by September 2010.  These Interim reforms were published August 23.  http://www.courts.state.co.us/userfiles/file/Administration/Executive/Standing%20Committee%20on%20Family%20Issues/Interim_Report_to_Chief_Justice_062310.pdf.  Final Report was due December 1, but I haven't seen it yet.

Reforms were suggested in 2002 and again in 2003, but died due to considerable pushback by unethical practitioners. Significant opposition occurred in 2010 also, limiting Legislative and Judicial approval once again.

As you know, the role of the CFI in Colorado is very powerful. As the “investigative arm of the Court”, they enjoy quasi-judicial immunity, are subject to no body of regulation, report only to the District Court, with the opinion of the CFI as omnipresent.  This also applies to court-appointed Parental Responsibility Evaluators (PREs), Guardian Ad litems (GALs), Decision Makers (DMs), and Parenting Coordinators(PC).  See attached No Jurisdiction = No Accountability pictorial.

These psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers and attorneys are taking advantage of the system as court appointed assignments are not subject to any insurance payment maximums. They are able to earn $200 - $400 an hour; without any oversight or accountability, background checks, verification of training requirements, competency assessments, continued qualifications, or standard investigation protocols.

The proposed Reforms seek to address this as the SCAO learned our state Licensing Board (DORA) is not protecting Colorado's families and children. The report highlights ~ 60 complaints per year have been dismissed due to the quasi judicial immunity granted by C.R.S. 12-43-215(7). The CFI role has been in effect since 1998, totaling 720+ dismissed complaints at DORA alone with no accountability for fraud, perjury, or false child abuse allegations which have taken children away from deserving parents. 

I've been to the Sheriff, the District Attorney, the FBI, DORA, the American Psychological Association, the Chief Judge, the District Court Administrator, the SCAO, and the Office of the Child's Representative -- all of whom claim no jurisdiction. My complaint is one of the 5 mentioned before them in the Report on pg 3, however there isn't a process to continue investigating it. Recommendations #2 and #4 seek to change this.

For more information, please contact the State Court Administrator's Office directly:
Chad Edinger
Court Auxiliary Services Coordinator
Colorado State Court Administrators Office
101 West Colfax Ave, Suite 500, Denver, CO 80202
phone: 303-837-3605
fax: 303-837-2340
chad.edinger@judicial.state.co.us

and

Bill DeLisio
Family Law Program Manager
Colorado State Court Administrator's Office
101 West Colfax, 5th Floor
Denver, CO 80202
(o) 303-837-3623
(f)  303-837-2340
bill.delisio@judicial.state.co.us

The reforms are also supported by Knowyourcourts.com, Three Sides to Every Story, and the Equal Justice Foundation.

 

Sincerely,

 

Moms4ChangeNow@gmail.com

To Those Victims That are still Facing Domestic Violence After Court....

It is such a disgrace that even after you tried to fight your fight in Court, you still have to face the Domestic Violence on a week by week, day by day basis. If you were married to a batterer and he still is a batterer, if you lost in court they do not fail to remind you. Every time you speak to them they remind you of how you failed in court, that you have no one to support you, because the system that is suppose to do what's really best for Your Children and You actually chose the criminal..... The Batterer, the one who on a daily or weekly basis reminds you of your loss and failure.


Guess what, they may have won that battle, but it is up to you to keep documenting, keep ignoring, even though the remarks are childish and upsetting, keep it moving!! That Man wants you to stop, and so did the CFI that lied or the Court official that did not allow you to speak your mind or prove the facts to be wrong. It's not that you were wrong, it's just that the system is messed up! Keep your  head up. Keep moving, keep living, keep laughing. You are worth every giggle, smile, and all the tranquility in the world. The only way anyone can take that from you, is you... if you let them.


I will not let my batterer get the best of me, I will not let the Court system get the best of me, and i will not be intimidated by a CFI, who lied because They have no morals. I will write, I will report what happen to me, and I will fight. When I am not calling the senate to enforce and/or keep Acts into Law, or speaking to Legislation hopefully this spring, or even just taking time to write in this Blog, I am fighting. When I am not Fighting ladies, I am living, So I hope you will join me in the fight and also to just Live as well :0)


~Live~Laugh~Love~

Please Help and Do Your Part!!

Hi all,

I urge you to quickly respond to NNEDV’s action alert (see below) by asking your Colorado U.S. House Representative(s) to reauthorize the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act (FVPSA) before they recess for the year. There is a very limited window of opportunity, so Congress needs to hear from their constituents that passing FVPSA is essential. NNEDV provides all the information you need, including a take action link to help you find out who your U.S. Representative(s) is and how to contact her/him. Thank you for speaking up for survivors!

Amy Miller

Public Policy Director

Colorado Coalition Against Domestic Violence

1120 Lincoln Street, Suite 900

Denver, CO 80203

303-962-0933 ▪ Tollfree:888-778-7091 x812 ▪ Fax: 303-832-7067

www.ccadv.org ▪ amiller@ccadv.org

From: National Network to End Domestic Violence [mailto:advocacy@nnedv.org]
Sent: Monday, December 06, 2010 10:11 AM
To: Amy Miller
Subject: Urge Your Members of Congress to Stand Up for Victims!

Urge Your Members of Congress to Stand Up for Victims! Support Domestic Violence Shelters Take Action! Urge Congress to Pass Vital Legislation Urge the House to Pass the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act Now! Friday, the Senate passed S. 3817, a bill to reauthorize the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act (FVPSA) as part of the Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA).  Now, the U.S. House of Representatives must pass S. 3817 so that it can be signed by the President! FVPSA is the only federal funding source dedicated to domestic violence services and shelters and CAPTA is an essential component in the federal government’s response to child abuse and neglect.  However, FVPSA and CAPTA expired in 2008.  It is essential that Congress reauthorizes these programs NOW to ensure that victims can continue to access lifesaving services when they face abuse. Take Action Now! Call your U.S. Representative today and urge him/her to reauthorize FVPSA and CAPTA now! Click on Take Action at the top of this page and then enter your zipcode in the Call Now box to find the name and number of your Representative. You may also share a story about how domestic violence shelters and programs have positively impacted your community. What Happens Next? Once the House passes S. 3817,  it will be sent to the President to be signed into law. Background on FVPSA Since it was first authorized in 1984, FVPSA has been intervening in and preventing domestic violence and abuse for millions of individuals.  FVPSA-funded programs are at the heart of our nation’s response to domestic violence – providing lifesaving services such as emergency shelter, hotline support, counseling, safety planning, advocacy, and primary and secondary prevention.  These services save victims' lives in immediate crisis and provide the comprehensive support victims need to rebuild their lives. Thank you for being a voice for survivors of domestic violence.