Fighting and Looking for Results-My Letter to Court Auxiliary Services Coordinator Colorado State Court Administrator's Office

Hello Mr. Edinger, 

We spoke about a month and a half ago, and I had just lost my case to my Ex due to a bad CFI. Now life for me has gotten worse and worse. My Ex husband has changed the schedule whenever he deems necessary,  and then demands for me to pick up the children or alter my schedule to go with his unauthorized changes. If I do not comply, he threatens to take me to court. I am scared to go back to court due to my previous experiences, but do not know what else to do. One of my children has a learning disability and has a court appointed counselor to deem when he is ready to go to his Father's home full time. She has not authorized any additional time with the exception of one overnight and one dinner night. Since then My Son has gotten in trouble at school 3 times and behavior has changed dramatically. Without authorization of the counselor my ex has added an extra day, this weekend. I consulted my Son's counselor and she said she did not authorize the change and was just discussing some changes with my son Eric. She gave My ex a call to explain and to also re schedule the appointment with our Son he had missed and he never called her back. However he implemented the change on his own. After implementing the change, he is refusing to bring the children home. I am sick with the flu and I asked him to bring the children home, he refused. So I told him to make sure to have the children to school on time tomorrow. Now he has done nothing but harass me and send many text messages threatening to take me back to court. I have gone above and beyond to adhere to the schedule the court gave and now, anytime he wishes he changes it, threatening to take me back to court. I cannot live this way any longer Mr Edinger. I am being battered, over and over again, and the system has allowed this. How do I fight back?? How do I put this abuse on my children and myself to a stop? Please any suggestions.

Thanks,

It's Amazing, Think About This.....

It's Amazing, you endure the physical and the emotional abuse from your batterer and you wonder...


What did I do to deserve this, and finally you figure out you did nothing and it's all him. He is one warped twisted individual, and now his life's goal is to make your life a living hell. So you leave, but you have his Children. Since you are struggling he leaves you with the children alone without any support. 


Then you begin to have support and he wants to enter the children's lives just to mess yours up. You go to court, the court allows the battering to continue, by allowing a CFI to lie, you not to prove your case and then on top of that tell the batterer he's forgiven after putting you down as a mother. It's disgusting!


 Now My batterer seems to think it's okay to throw that day in my face every chance he gets. When things don't go his way, which generally means I am not going above and beyond to make him happy, he threatens court again. Well you know what I am fed up!!!!! Take my tail back to court then. I am no longer your victim and I am going to live my life. I deserve my time with my children as you do your time. 


However I will not be frightened of the court system and allow my batterer to continue to batter me!!!


If you don't want to bring the children home on time, then keep them another day. I am not going to stop what I am doing and come and get them because you changed the schedule around. I am worthy of a life outside of our children, and I no longer have any connection with you!! I will hold my end of the parenting plan and if you cannot hold yours up then, give them to me and when you can come get them on your parenting time let me know. No more will I cater to your schedule, give you extra time, or put up with your excuses. It's not my job!! 


Time to step up Ladies!! YOU DO NOT HAVE TO BE THE VICTIM. Call their bluff from time to time, stop being scared.


It's a learning process, I am still learning too. One step at a time. One No at a time. One I am worth it at a time. Believe me, we as women are worth it. When things are broken who has to fix it?? We do. So whether we fix it while being a victim or while loving ourselves, We are much more supportive after loving our selves. This Crap has  to end sometime. 


Think About It!!!!


Aren't You Ready Yet?????

We Are Getting Out There!!!

Hello Justice,

 

I applaud you for starting your website.  We have been networking and trying to spread the word of efforts for Justice.

 

Chief Justice Mullarkey responded to a January 2007 direct letter from parents, testimony by mothers including myself before the House Judiciary Committee against SB09-069, and Recommendation 69 A-F of the Final Report of the Commission on Families in the Colorado Courts (August 2002) by tasking the State Court Administrator's Office (SCAO) to make recommendations for Child Family Investigator (CFI) and Parenting Coordinators (PCs) reform by September 2010.  These Interim reforms were published August 23.  http://www.courts.state.co.us/userfiles/file/Administration/Executive/Standing%20Committee%20on%20Family%20Issues/Interim_Report_to_Chief_Justice_062310.pdf.  Final Report was due December 1, but I haven't seen it yet.

Reforms were suggested in 2002 and again in 2003, but died due to considerable pushback by unethical practitioners. Significant opposition occurred in 2010 also, limiting Legislative and Judicial approval once again.

As you know, the role of the CFI in Colorado is very powerful. As the “investigative arm of the Court”, they enjoy quasi-judicial immunity, are subject to no body of regulation, report only to the District Court, with the opinion of the CFI as omnipresent.  This also applies to court-appointed Parental Responsibility Evaluators (PREs), Guardian Ad litems (GALs), Decision Makers (DMs), and Parenting Coordinators(PC).  See attached No Jurisdiction = No Accountability pictorial.

These psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers and attorneys are taking advantage of the system as court appointed assignments are not subject to any insurance payment maximums. They are able to earn $200 - $400 an hour; without any oversight or accountability, background checks, verification of training requirements, competency assessments, continued qualifications, or standard investigation protocols.

The proposed Reforms seek to address this as the SCAO learned our state Licensing Board (DORA) is not protecting Colorado's families and children. The report highlights ~ 60 complaints per year have been dismissed due to the quasi judicial immunity granted by C.R.S. 12-43-215(7). The CFI role has been in effect since 1998, totaling 720+ dismissed complaints at DORA alone with no accountability for fraud, perjury, or false child abuse allegations which have taken children away from deserving parents. 

I've been to the Sheriff, the District Attorney, the FBI, DORA, the American Psychological Association, the Chief Judge, the District Court Administrator, the SCAO, and the Office of the Child's Representative -- all of whom claim no jurisdiction. My complaint is one of the 5 mentioned before them in the Report on pg 3, however there isn't a process to continue investigating it. Recommendations #2 and #4 seek to change this.

For more information, please contact the State Court Administrator's Office directly:
Chad Edinger
Court Auxiliary Services Coordinator
Colorado State Court Administrators Office
101 West Colfax Ave, Suite 500, Denver, CO 80202
phone: 303-837-3605
fax: 303-837-2340
chad.edinger@judicial.state.co.us

and

Bill DeLisio
Family Law Program Manager
Colorado State Court Administrator's Office
101 West Colfax, 5th Floor
Denver, CO 80202
(o) 303-837-3623
(f)  303-837-2340
bill.delisio@judicial.state.co.us

The reforms are also supported by Knowyourcourts.com, Three Sides to Every Story, and the Equal Justice Foundation.

 

Sincerely,

 

Moms4ChangeNow@gmail.com

To Those Victims That are still Facing Domestic Violence After Court....

It is such a disgrace that even after you tried to fight your fight in Court, you still have to face the Domestic Violence on a week by week, day by day basis. If you were married to a batterer and he still is a batterer, if you lost in court they do not fail to remind you. Every time you speak to them they remind you of how you failed in court, that you have no one to support you, because the system that is suppose to do what's really best for Your Children and You actually chose the criminal..... The Batterer, the one who on a daily or weekly basis reminds you of your loss and failure.


Guess what, they may have won that battle, but it is up to you to keep documenting, keep ignoring, even though the remarks are childish and upsetting, keep it moving!! That Man wants you to stop, and so did the CFI that lied or the Court official that did not allow you to speak your mind or prove the facts to be wrong. It's not that you were wrong, it's just that the system is messed up! Keep your  head up. Keep moving, keep living, keep laughing. You are worth every giggle, smile, and all the tranquility in the world. The only way anyone can take that from you, is you... if you let them.


I will not let my batterer get the best of me, I will not let the Court system get the best of me, and i will not be intimidated by a CFI, who lied because They have no morals. I will write, I will report what happen to me, and I will fight. When I am not calling the senate to enforce and/or keep Acts into Law, or speaking to Legislation hopefully this spring, or even just taking time to write in this Blog, I am fighting. When I am not Fighting ladies, I am living, So I hope you will join me in the fight and also to just Live as well :0)


~Live~Laugh~Love~

Please Help and Do Your Part!!

Hi all,

I urge you to quickly respond to NNEDV’s action alert (see below) by asking your Colorado U.S. House Representative(s) to reauthorize the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act (FVPSA) before they recess for the year. There is a very limited window of opportunity, so Congress needs to hear from their constituents that passing FVPSA is essential. NNEDV provides all the information you need, including a take action link to help you find out who your U.S. Representative(s) is and how to contact her/him. Thank you for speaking up for survivors!

Amy Miller

Public Policy Director

Colorado Coalition Against Domestic Violence

1120 Lincoln Street, Suite 900

Denver, CO 80203

303-962-0933 ▪ Tollfree:888-778-7091 x812 ▪ Fax: 303-832-7067

www.ccadv.org ▪ amiller@ccadv.org

From: National Network to End Domestic Violence [mailto:advocacy@nnedv.org]
Sent: Monday, December 06, 2010 10:11 AM
To: Amy Miller
Subject: Urge Your Members of Congress to Stand Up for Victims!

Urge Your Members of Congress to Stand Up for Victims! Support Domestic Violence Shelters Take Action! Urge Congress to Pass Vital Legislation Urge the House to Pass the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act Now! Friday, the Senate passed S. 3817, a bill to reauthorize the Family Violence Prevention and Services Act (FVPSA) as part of the Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA).  Now, the U.S. House of Representatives must pass S. 3817 so that it can be signed by the President! FVPSA is the only federal funding source dedicated to domestic violence services and shelters and CAPTA is an essential component in the federal government’s response to child abuse and neglect.  However, FVPSA and CAPTA expired in 2008.  It is essential that Congress reauthorizes these programs NOW to ensure that victims can continue to access lifesaving services when they face abuse. Take Action Now! Call your U.S. Representative today and urge him/her to reauthorize FVPSA and CAPTA now! Click on Take Action at the top of this page and then enter your zipcode in the Call Now box to find the name and number of your Representative. You may also share a story about how domestic violence shelters and programs have positively impacted your community. What Happens Next? Once the House passes S. 3817,  it will be sent to the President to be signed into law. Background on FVPSA Since it was first authorized in 1984, FVPSA has been intervening in and preventing domestic violence and abuse for millions of individuals.  FVPSA-funded programs are at the heart of our nation’s response to domestic violence – providing lifesaving services such as emergency shelter, hotline support, counseling, safety planning, advocacy, and primary and secondary prevention.  These services save victims' lives in immediate crisis and provide the comprehensive support victims need to rebuild their lives. Thank you for being a voice for survivors of domestic violence.

Real Talk

 Until you learn how to say 'no', you will never be able to fully say 'yes'. Unless you know how to set boundaries to form your safe space, you will always be concerned that saying 'yes' might put you in danger. So you will always pull back a little from saying 'yes' with your whole heart. Paradoxically, knowing how to say 'no' to form boundaries gives much more power to your 'yes'.

Very Upsetting/Let out of FRUSTRATION...

You Know what is upsetting???


Upsetting is watching your children get worse and worse after the court appointed more time with their abusive father. My Child has had a call from the school 3 times already since increased visits with his father. My other Child never had problems doing homework. Homework Habits were always perfect, now thanks to the wacky schedule the CFI gave my Children it's so terrible for them. They cannot even keep up!! I am documenting EVERYTHING. Great! What should the kids do in the mean time??? Suffer I guess.......


THANKS ARAPAHOE COUNTY!!!!!

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It Gets Harder, Before it Gets Easier

When I went to court, I got annihilated. Not because I was wrong, or even did anything wrong, but because the Magistrate was a former CFI. The CFI assigned to my case was biased and lied a great deal about My character and who I was, and what the children in fact told her. The Magistrate would not allow me to prove the CFI wrong. Even though my evidence was time stamped and dated, I even had evidence that was notarized by Arapahoe County and she would not hear it. The Magistrate tried to insult me, she would not hear what the Children's Counselor had to say, and even, out of all the witnesses I had she still took the CFI's word. After not really hearing my case, the CFI's Lies and the attempt of insult, she gave me a speech on how to be a mother and alienation and it's effects on the kids. Then she pardoned my ex for the domestic violence he committed.

 Now Every chance my ex gets he uses something that was said against me in court to start something with me. It does not work, because I continue to go to Domestic Violence Counseling. Not only that ladies, but that magistrate didn't know me, she didn't try to see the truth, nor did she try to get to know my character. Or the struggles I overcame as a single mother as a domestic abuse victim, whose Domestic abuser did not do squat for his children then, and barely does squat for them now.

 I am a strong woman who still has her head up and may cry in the shadows of the night, but will have justice sooner or later. No one will take that strength from me. Not the CFI, not the magistrate, nor my ex. I am a survivor of Domestic Violence. I am a survivor of Rape by The Arapahoe County Court, and I have not given up. You can report a CFI who has lied in court and not reported in the children's best interest and I intend to. I have reported mine to the Coalition for Domestic Violence, that was my start and they helped me with numbers and names of people who could help me. Don't be a victim. Don't lie down and allow yourself to be abused by your abuser or by the system. You have the right to speak your mind. You have the right to protect Your children. Do it, and never stop. Your children will see in the long run that you did all you could to keep them from harm and love them. I am proud of what I did, I fought for my children. I stood up! I am sad that the system has allowed Domestic Violence to be accepted, and is allowing our children to have to endure it. The Magistrate stated my children will be teenagers soon, but what she doesn't realize is that they can come after her and the system for her neglectful Judgment. Every one has a boss, someone to report to, if they won't listen, climb higher. I intend to. Good Luck Soldiers, and now that you know my story, feel free to leave me yours. You have someone who is listening and working to do something about it........

Let Us Rise

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. You have to agree that you are less and that someone else is more to feel inferior. If you don't agree, you can not possibly feel inferior. You might know something less, or you might be able to do something less, but you ARE unique and hence simply incomparable. Do not buy into being reduced to an object of comparison.

One Year of Straight Hell

The Complaints started again, and by this time my ex felt confident enough to ask for joint visitation. He took me back to court. I now had an attorney, I really could not afford. We petitioned the court for what is called a Children and Family Investigator. I was referred to a CFI named Adoree Blair, so not knowing much about her but on word of another, who I trusted, I asked for her. From the moment she began on the case things didn't seem right. At first the boys were telling her everything, how they were hit, called names, spat on, ect. She had spoken to the Teachers and most importantly she had spoken with The Children's counselor. The Children told their counselor everything. She took the visits with their father away for a week and then one day, my husband had to work and  our second car broke down. I let the CFI and my ex know that he would have to pick up and drop off that day, and he did not want to. He did not show up that day and instead of having to take responsibility for not doing what he could to spend that time with his children, Adoree patted him on the back and gave him a make up day, and the following week gave the kids back to my ex for the normal regular visits. It was a very tough time on the children, and every time I would point something out to the CFI she would either say the child change the story, which would usually happen when questioned at their father's house or that my ex denied it. Which always happened. Then the CFI just didn't listen to the children's complaints at all. within 2 months she came up with this theory of the dead fish. Which in a nutshell, she claimed the children were telling me crazy stories to make me feel better. Usually when Children get caught in a lie, don't they stop??? During the whole case she would manipulate the kids words, or make up an excuse, just so there was nothing bad about their father. The more I fought her the more she turned the case against me. Threatening my sanity, saying that I alienated the father from the children. Finally My Son came to me with a bruise on him and I called the police. A case worker got involved and spoke to Adoree Blair, and after she spoke to the case worker, Adoree changed and even added negative lies to her report to make me look terrible, and she did not stick to any of the facts the case worker actually gave her. She manipulates her power as a child and Family Investigator. Not because it's right, but because she has a single belief that the children should have both parents in their lives NO MATTER WHAT.  Adoree Blair lied in court, and without giving me a chance to fight. They believed every lie she gave. The Magistrate was a former CFI and did not allow me to disprove Adoree Blair. My Children are now separated majority of the time, because of one main cause Money. My ex didn't want to pay. The CFI knew this and even wrote me an email stating things would be so much easier when Child support is lowered. If that's not agenda, I do not know what is. It is easier to cause danger, and on going Domestic Violence, to two Children rather then make a man take responsibility for his actions, get better, get to know the children that He abandoned, and lastly help support the kids he made and didn't pay for from 2004-2008. Details of How I was Raped in Court to Follow..............

The Beginning

Hello.

My name is Justified. I call myself Justified because I feel I have every justifiable reason to expose the Court System and the CFI who handled my case, with no problem endangering the lives of my children. My Children were raised by just me after my ex and I divorced in 2004, he rarely paid Child support and rarely saw the Children, not by my choice. I pressed for him to see the Children and when he made promises, he never fulfilled. I ended up making up excuses for his short comings so the children would not perish. In 2007 I Re Married, my ex then started coming around a little bit. Complaints from the children started. Not Mild complaints. They complained of being spat on, and being hit in the head, and being called really terrible names. I started off with asking my ex, but he denied it every time. Finally they just stopped going. I finally enforced Child Support in 2008, and  that's when my ex wanted to see the children more. With that increased time, more complaints arose. So I got a restraining order and called Social services. A case worker came out, the children relayed to her that they were spat on and hit in the head. She closed the case as unfounded. I went to court and showed the court told the court everything the children had told me, after hearing the attorney tell the Judge that a Mother's Testimony is hearsay. The Judge allowed me to speak after looking in the law book. He was pretty good, but did not have the evidence to keep the restraining order in place. Before leaving court that day, I warned the judge that if there was another complaint I would be back. He replied with a slight chuckle, "I am sure you will". I sure wish he would have seen my case with The Child and Family Investigator.