Real Talk

 Until you learn how to say 'no', you will never be able to fully say 'yes'. Unless you know how to set boundaries to form your safe space, you will always be concerned that saying 'yes' might put you in danger. So you will always pull back a little from saying 'yes' with your whole heart. Paradoxically, knowing how to say 'no' to form boundaries gives much more power to your 'yes'.

Very Upsetting/Let out of FRUSTRATION...

You Know what is upsetting???


Upsetting is watching your children get worse and worse after the court appointed more time with their abusive father. My Child has had a call from the school 3 times already since increased visits with his father. My other Child never had problems doing homework. Homework Habits were always perfect, now thanks to the wacky schedule the CFI gave my Children it's so terrible for them. They cannot even keep up!! I am documenting EVERYTHING. Great! What should the kids do in the mean time??? Suffer I guess.......


THANKS ARAPAHOE COUNTY!!!!!

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It Gets Harder, Before it Gets Easier

When I went to court, I got annihilated. Not because I was wrong, or even did anything wrong, but because the Magistrate was a former CFI. The CFI assigned to my case was biased and lied a great deal about My character and who I was, and what the children in fact told her. The Magistrate would not allow me to prove the CFI wrong. Even though my evidence was time stamped and dated, I even had evidence that was notarized by Arapahoe County and she would not hear it. The Magistrate tried to insult me, she would not hear what the Children's Counselor had to say, and even, out of all the witnesses I had she still took the CFI's word. After not really hearing my case, the CFI's Lies and the attempt of insult, she gave me a speech on how to be a mother and alienation and it's effects on the kids. Then she pardoned my ex for the domestic violence he committed.

 Now Every chance my ex gets he uses something that was said against me in court to start something with me. It does not work, because I continue to go to Domestic Violence Counseling. Not only that ladies, but that magistrate didn't know me, she didn't try to see the truth, nor did she try to get to know my character. Or the struggles I overcame as a single mother as a domestic abuse victim, whose Domestic abuser did not do squat for his children then, and barely does squat for them now.

 I am a strong woman who still has her head up and may cry in the shadows of the night, but will have justice sooner or later. No one will take that strength from me. Not the CFI, not the magistrate, nor my ex. I am a survivor of Domestic Violence. I am a survivor of Rape by The Arapahoe County Court, and I have not given up. You can report a CFI who has lied in court and not reported in the children's best interest and I intend to. I have reported mine to the Coalition for Domestic Violence, that was my start and they helped me with numbers and names of people who could help me. Don't be a victim. Don't lie down and allow yourself to be abused by your abuser or by the system. You have the right to speak your mind. You have the right to protect Your children. Do it, and never stop. Your children will see in the long run that you did all you could to keep them from harm and love them. I am proud of what I did, I fought for my children. I stood up! I am sad that the system has allowed Domestic Violence to be accepted, and is allowing our children to have to endure it. The Magistrate stated my children will be teenagers soon, but what she doesn't realize is that they can come after her and the system for her neglectful Judgment. Every one has a boss, someone to report to, if they won't listen, climb higher. I intend to. Good Luck Soldiers, and now that you know my story, feel free to leave me yours. You have someone who is listening and working to do something about it........

Let Us Rise

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. You have to agree that you are less and that someone else is more to feel inferior. If you don't agree, you can not possibly feel inferior. You might know something less, or you might be able to do something less, but you ARE unique and hence simply incomparable. Do not buy into being reduced to an object of comparison.

One Year of Straight Hell

The Complaints started again, and by this time my ex felt confident enough to ask for joint visitation. He took me back to court. I now had an attorney, I really could not afford. We petitioned the court for what is called a Children and Family Investigator. I was referred to a CFI named Adoree Blair, so not knowing much about her but on word of another, who I trusted, I asked for her. From the moment she began on the case things didn't seem right. At first the boys were telling her everything, how they were hit, called names, spat on, ect. She had spoken to the Teachers and most importantly she had spoken with The Children's counselor. The Children told their counselor everything. She took the visits with their father away for a week and then one day, my husband had to work and  our second car broke down. I let the CFI and my ex know that he would have to pick up and drop off that day, and he did not want to. He did not show up that day and instead of having to take responsibility for not doing what he could to spend that time with his children, Adoree patted him on the back and gave him a make up day, and the following week gave the kids back to my ex for the normal regular visits. It was a very tough time on the children, and every time I would point something out to the CFI she would either say the child change the story, which would usually happen when questioned at their father's house or that my ex denied it. Which always happened. Then the CFI just didn't listen to the children's complaints at all. within 2 months she came up with this theory of the dead fish. Which in a nutshell, she claimed the children were telling me crazy stories to make me feel better. Usually when Children get caught in a lie, don't they stop??? During the whole case she would manipulate the kids words, or make up an excuse, just so there was nothing bad about their father. The more I fought her the more she turned the case against me. Threatening my sanity, saying that I alienated the father from the children. Finally My Son came to me with a bruise on him and I called the police. A case worker got involved and spoke to Adoree Blair, and after she spoke to the case worker, Adoree changed and even added negative lies to her report to make me look terrible, and she did not stick to any of the facts the case worker actually gave her. She manipulates her power as a child and Family Investigator. Not because it's right, but because she has a single belief that the children should have both parents in their lives NO MATTER WHAT.  Adoree Blair lied in court, and without giving me a chance to fight. They believed every lie she gave. The Magistrate was a former CFI and did not allow me to disprove Adoree Blair. My Children are now separated majority of the time, because of one main cause Money. My ex didn't want to pay. The CFI knew this and even wrote me an email stating things would be so much easier when Child support is lowered. If that's not agenda, I do not know what is. It is easier to cause danger, and on going Domestic Violence, to two Children rather then make a man take responsibility for his actions, get better, get to know the children that He abandoned, and lastly help support the kids he made and didn't pay for from 2004-2008. Details of How I was Raped in Court to Follow..............

The Beginning

Hello.

My name is Justified. I call myself Justified because I feel I have every justifiable reason to expose the Court System and the CFI who handled my case, with no problem endangering the lives of my children. My Children were raised by just me after my ex and I divorced in 2004, he rarely paid Child support and rarely saw the Children, not by my choice. I pressed for him to see the Children and when he made promises, he never fulfilled. I ended up making up excuses for his short comings so the children would not perish. In 2007 I Re Married, my ex then started coming around a little bit. Complaints from the children started. Not Mild complaints. They complained of being spat on, and being hit in the head, and being called really terrible names. I started off with asking my ex, but he denied it every time. Finally they just stopped going. I finally enforced Child Support in 2008, and  that's when my ex wanted to see the children more. With that increased time, more complaints arose. So I got a restraining order and called Social services. A case worker came out, the children relayed to her that they were spat on and hit in the head. She closed the case as unfounded. I went to court and showed the court told the court everything the children had told me, after hearing the attorney tell the Judge that a Mother's Testimony is hearsay. The Judge allowed me to speak after looking in the law book. He was pretty good, but did not have the evidence to keep the restraining order in place. Before leaving court that day, I warned the judge that if there was another complaint I would be back. He replied with a slight chuckle, "I am sure you will". I sure wish he would have seen my case with The Child and Family Investigator.